Determining Family Values 

Mission: Achieve a clear understanding of your family’s values. 

Introduction

I love homeschooling because it allows a family to instill effective values into their child. Because of homeschooling, the child doesn’t need to battle all the toxicity that exists in today’s society. Homeschooling gives the parents the power back in the child’s upbringing and creates an authentic bond between parent and child. Homeschooling puts parents around their kids 24/7. This allows them to live out the example of their family’s values every single day.

With any type of power, more responsibility comes to the forefront. If parents do not live up to the responsibility by presenting strong morals and values, children will not obtain strong boundaries. If children watch parents who have weak boundaries, they will most likely grow up with weak boundaries as well. 

In terms of strong parenting, the parents must choose to set values/boundaries. For instance, if a specific family does not agree with drinking, this becomes a main value in a household. Thus, the children witness their parents choose to turn down alcohol at every event. This makes it easier in the future for the children to imitate the refusal to drink at future parties and events. They become stronger, more confident versions of themselves because their parents show strength. 

“Kids emulate their parents far better than they listen to them.”

Again, homeschooling gives a parent a great opportunity to develop their child. I want to stress the fact that there is nothing wrong with a family having strong values and morals. Currently, both society and social media continue to demand that parents train their child in a certain, best-perceived manner. All parents can stand up, responding to this by parenting their child with their own ideals. They can refuse to follow society’s demands.

This is your family. No one can dictate to your family or tell you what values you should live by. As long as you don’t preach violence, hate, and or communism, this is America–the land of the free. You should and can raise your kids how your family sees fit.

Use this opportunity to show your child what values are important to your family. Let them know that their last name is special and that it has meaning behind it. Explain to them that when you stand for something, you do not bend your knee to please another individual or society. 

Implementation 

In the end, holding onto values will aid your family. When determining your family’s values, make them as clear as possible. These values will help your child make decisions whenever life presents a new opportunity or decision. Therefore, you must clearly state these values as the parent. Keeping them concise will only make decisions easier for your child. These values can be simple, such as:

• Address adults as Sir and Ma’am all the time  
• Say please and thank you
• Do not partake in gossip

Parent-taught values will help shape your child into a strong adult. Our society continues to lose simple values like those mentioned above. Children need curiosity and respect to survive in society today. These ideals also help stabilize your child and create independence within him or her.

 Determining Your Family’s Values 

•  You and your partner need to reflect on what values you already subscribe to now.
• Sit down and discuss your values together. 
• List out these current values on a piece of paper or your phone.
• After you have your current values listed, begin to brainstorm about the type of person you want your child to be. 
• List the values that are important to your family and you.
• Discuss the traits and values you would have to adopt to best model that desired behavior.
• Describe/explain these traits in an individual. 
• Discuss how your child can start making these values their own. 
• Next, ask your children to brainstorm about what values they believe in.
• They should also write down which values they want to live by now and when they are older. 
• They should also write what they need to do to start achieving these values.
• Get together as a family and discuss everyone’s list. 
• Figure out if some co-align with one another. 
• Listen and allow your child to voice their concerns. 
• Show determination and passion behind the project (the more your children believe in the value, the more likely they will stay true to it).
• Decide on which ones you will stand for as a family. 

3 Rules of Family Value Success

• Live the standard day in and day out. Even when no one sees the standard. 
• Don’t shy away from confrontation when it comes to your values.
• Constantly bring up and show real-life examples when you remain steadfast to the values as a family unit. 

Conclusion 

To conclude, I want to amplify one more time that whether your child holds fast to their personal values and beliefs depends on you. Their belief in set values depends on the number of times they watch you do it. You can have 5000 family meetings and just talk. However, if you do not subscribe to these values and lead the family from the front, your child will not believe in these values. 

Constantly discussing these values will help instill the message in their heads. They must see you and your partner as a living example every single day. Unless you live out these values, they will not help your child grow into a strong and capable adult.